There are other sorts of anniversaries though, of death, trauma, loss, and I tend to befriend people who carry these with them, and pick them up along the way, most likely because I am one of them. I recently discussed with someone (of the above no-anniversaries-ever inclination) the relevance of keeping these dates in the heart, and speaking to them and about them when they come about. The arguments they gave were valid: Why would you WANT to remember that? Why memorialize the terrible things, especially when you recognise time and dates to be arbitrary? Why give trauma even more power than it has already, by allowing it to remain in the present, return again and again, even more than it already does?
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